It has become a norm to adopt the principal of asking for what you want.  However, we are seldom prepared to except the disappointment of it not coming true.  You hear and see this when the topic of generational behavior becomes a topic of discussion.

Personal empowerment isn’t a gifted ability to achieve end results.  Personal empowerment is the gift of responsible understanding of what you can do and what elements you have no control over.

Recently an acquaintance was lamenting about his personal love life.  On a regular basis he puts forth is painful anguish, his frustrations and the underlying hurt that he is experiencing.  While I try to make light of the topic and encourage him to grow up a bit, I do feel and appreciate his pain.  This situation is more than likely one that all of us has experienced at one time or another.  On this recent sharing of experiences I made the suggestion that he needed to start looking at personal relationships with a different viewpoint.  That viewpoint involved using the sensory abilities and to stop looking at these engagements as thought it was some pragmatic business plan.  His reaction, although not as a total surprise, was to suggest that I needed to get up to date with my thinking.  It made me chuckle and my retort was simple…. “I’m not the one with the problem, you are.  And as long as I’m still alive you need to know who is in control.”   I share this story for one purposeful reason, and that is about your ability to control.

We can fool ourselves into believing we have these powers and abilities.  Maybe we do, and yet maybe they are just in the early stages of development.  Whatever the case, we are able to do things with these but they may not necessarily drive a #transition in thinking, behavior or outcomes.  They simply become like bees swarming around your head or more aggressively become rubber bullets bouncing off of superman.  As a result content is created, loss of respect occurs, avoidance becomes a natural reaction and underlying to all of this an undercurrent of distraction occurs that takes our focus away from other more pressing and important matters.

Control is not a tool of force, to be wheeled as bludgeoning device, but is an art form that is used to mobile results.  Yes, I would consider this to be one of the pillars for successful transitioning, but certainly not the only one.  Climatic conditions, experience, resourcefulness, clarity and lean visioning are also essential and necessary contributory forces.  Control however becomes a tool to be used prudently, never allowing the control to be assumed as a given but considered as a resource to be exercised.  Initiatives that go terribly wrong have shown time and again that control (excessive or lack of) was a contributing element.

Types of Control

How good is your self-control?  Most would answer in a positive way.  But let’s say you haven’t eaten today and you walk into your home and there sitting on the counter is your favorite food.  You partner has given you explicit instructions not to touch the food until they arrive.  Can you exercise restraint, thus self-control or will you succumb to your hunger and cast aside respectful instructions?

Self-control gets tempered by conditions, and not all of these conditions are healthy ones.  Some may be driven by psychological conditions created by the work or family climate, situational conditions caused as a result of ingestion (like alcohol) or ones that occur from random unexpected situations.

Engineered controls are task focused regulators that can permit or reject outcomes.  Created to act as watch dogs they relieve us of regular ongoing vigilant oversight.  Even then we are obligated to exercise our self-control to not simply permit them to run unobserved.  In this day and age in exploring the possibility of grand scale artificial intelligence and learning machine technology the employment of engineered controls cannot be under estimated as required.  In this category of controls there are a subset of types ranging from feedback, to restrictive, alternative route and alert forms.  Its not as important to know what type or form but understand that these are a resource and when they should be employed.

Power of Transitional Control

Achieving outcome value is paramount.  It’s not simply not a question of Return on Investment (ROI), expediency or harmony but also embraces holistic fluidity.  Not trying to sound too vogue by creating new terminology but the concept of holistic fluidity embraces that belief that distractions become a rarity and that to produce value outcomes you must have all of your efforts in sync.   Even under the best of circumstances there will be assaults on the holistic fluidity of transitioning.  Politics, contentions, unrest, historic apprehensions, staffing shift, contentious initiatives and lack of self-control place at risk transitional success.  One might say, “I’m willing to see how things turn out has they have in the past”, but then we need to looking truthfully at the success stories of the past.  Are there any and if so is our success conclusion based on concrete fact or simply a weakening of outcome expectations?

Each of us is shaped by our journey.  Its not about the achievement of goals or the attainment of glory but rather its the way in which we have lived our personal and professional life.  In that story is the thread we call #transitioning.  Our transitions from child to adult, from student to employee, from individual to family….   Time and again we see that the abrupt moments are the ones that put us at risk and uncertainty.  Time and again we struggle to find stability and each time we advance we do so with a bit more comfort, less wasteful and more confidence.  This is transitioning and it all comes down to the degree in which we exercise control.  Whether it be what we can manage, called self-control, or we put into play other forms of control to guide our way to a positive outcome.

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